Are you bored with first dates? Here are 5 great first date ideas
Sometimes the idea of a first date is just enough to tip you over the edge, you're fed up of the same old same old and you want to do something different, and fun and interesting for a change – so here are 5 Great First Date Ideas to help you get started.
If you're in the middle of trying to find ‘the one' then you'll no doubt be going on your fair share of first dates. Trouble is, there's only so many three course meals or coffees you can drink in a week without starting to feel a little bit jaded and very full.
First dates can be a lot of effort and whilst I'm a hopeless romantic who loves the idea of long lazy meals in candle-lit restaurants, I do think that there are ways you can shake up the process to make it more efficient and less ‘same old, same old'.
The great thing about some of the ideas I'm about to share is that they are also more conducive to fun, getting to know someone and falling in love. Why? Because they're about getting to know more, not just about your date but also about yourself and your local area. They're more about relaxing together and having some fun than sitting opposite each other in stuffy restaurants making snap judgments and being put off by the menu.
There's another interesting thing about going out for a meal as a first date. It's a lot of pressure and it can be one of the worst first date ideas if you get it wrong. Here are some of the ways dinner as a first date might suck:
- neither of you knows the other,
- the food might not be great,
- you might struggle for conversation,
- it might be so dark that you can't even see your date,
- it might be so bright that they look awful in the artificial lighting,
- the music might be so loud and intrusive that you can't hear each other speak,
- conversation might be stilted because you don't know each other well enough yet,
- one or other of you might be so nervous about eating in front of a stranger that you can't speak
There are actually lots of reasons why you might want to try something different for a first date, but what can you do to mix things up a bit if you're facing another first date and you know you can't sit through another meal?
I encourage you both to think a little broader and use the first date as a way to relax and have fun so that you stand the best chance of getting to know each other in the limited time you have available.
I did a little search online to see what other people were saying made for a great first date and I found a fab website with a list of 29. Here are my favourite suggestions for great first dates, you can find 24 more HERE:
This is a great first date idea for a few reasons: you can have a drink in the bar before hand or while playing, this is great for those who feel nervous and fancy a tipple to settle the nerves. It's a great giggle, even if you're rubbish at bowling it's still lots of fun. Bowling also includes an element of competition which is great for breaking the ice – everyone forgets their inhibitions when they're in competition mode, even if its only friendly competition, we all like to win. You get to do a small amount of touching too, and we all know you can tell a lot from the spark you get when you brush against someone.
2. Coffee with a Twist
You'll know that I don't think coffee constitutes a suitable first date option, however, I've seen a few ways that couples have made it more interesting than just a quick latte in the local coffee shop. My favourite of those is to grab a coffee to go and then go for a stroll around so that you can chat in a more relaxed and informal setting. I'd say the best way to make the most of this option is to plan your route out first, you want it to take you past some interesting architecture, perhaps a great bakery so that you can grab something sweet, and even factor in a park or open social space. Obviously this option only works if the weather is warm and dry, but if you're stuck with the rain or snow you can combine your coffee with a trip to a local art gallery or exhibition.
3. Dinner with a Twist
Go out for dinner but instead of eating three courses in one restaurant (the standard first date), add some variety by grabbing each course in a different venue. You could try a sushi starter, then move on to a steak house for your main course and then finish up with a sundae at an ice-cream parlour. This way of enjoying dinner gives you both an opportunity to choose your favourite food (you aren't forced to eat somewhere you don't really like just to please your date).
4. Pack a Picnic
There's something really liberating about eating food with your fingers, especially in the great outdoors. It can bring two people together in a way that other dates can't. You sit close, you take your shoes off, you're breathing in the scent of summer and it's making you heady and a little intoxicated, you're feeling the flush of summer love stir within you, you're laughing together, you might even have brought wine (or champagne, strawberries, great finger food), you're playing great music to fall in love to… Picnics are great for any date, but especially fun for first dates because they're so relaxed and informal.
5. Go to a Theme Park
If you've got a fun streak and you love adventure (and being scared in the company of complete strangers) you could head to a theme park for your first date. This is a great way to let your guard (and your hair) down and get to know your date. You can share in the excitement and fear. You get to hold his hand because you're “scared” and he gets to feel like a hero (and what man doesn't want to feel like a hero??). He can win you a soft toy and you can eat candy-floss (cotton candy) together, yes theme parks or fun fairs make for great first dates!
There you have it, my favourite 5 great first date ideas – from the list of 29 on Greatist.com I would love to know what exciting first dates you've been on. How about sharing the weirdest, the most exciting, the most unusual dates with me in the comments below?
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